SDC swing and couple accounts

[Tamara]

Hello everyone! My husband and I recently joined SDC as beginners. We were excited, created a nice profile, and uploaded photos. We’ve messaged several couples and women, but haven’t received any replies.

Our messages are friendly - we usually say we like their profile and would love to meet for a drink at a club. We’re also not getting many profile views. It’s a bit discouraging to be ignored, but we’re trying to stay positive and hope to meet people in person.

Are we doing something wrong?

 

[repoman]

It’s a bit different for us. I’m the one (the husband) who handles most of the messaging on SDC. My wife usually joins in later, once we’ve actually met or at least made a solid connection. She got tired of spending time chatting with people who never follow through, so now I take care of filtering and setting things up.

One thing that helped us is trying to move things forward fairly quickly. Instead of just saying we like someone’s profile, I usually suggest something simple and specific early on, like meeting at a certain club or event. It seems to get better responses than more general messages.

Also, don’t take the lack of replies too personally - it’s pretty common on SDC. A lot of people don’t respond for all kinds of reasons. You might want to tweak your messages to be a bit more personal or direct, and give it some time. Once you connect with a few people, it tends to get easier.

 

[Zamora]

A lot of couples join expecting quick replies, but SDC is more about patience and filtering than instant results.

From experience, most success comes from being a bit more intentional. It’s good that you’re sending friendly messages, but sometimes “we like your profile, let’s grab a drink” is still too generic. People there get a lot of similar messages, so it can blend in easily.

A few things that helped us over time:

• Actually reference something specific in their profile
• Keep the first message short but personal
• Don’t expect immediate replies - some couples are very selective or inactive
• Be consistent and don’t take silence personally

Also, profile views and responses can take time to build up, especially for new accounts. A lot of people won’t respond until they see a bit of activity or engagement first.

You’re probably not “doing everything wrong” - it’s just a slower process than it looks at first. Once you adjust expectations and refine your approach a bit, it usually gets easier.