Sugar dating today - a sugar daddy's take

[ericksfrancis]

Sorry for the long post, but I wanted to be honest about what I’m seeing.

I’m an experienced Sugar Daddy in my early 50s. I’m generous with my allowance and enjoy spoiling my sugar baby with nice dining, travel, luxury experiences, and a better lifestyle. I don’t just send money and disappear - I actually invest time and effort to make the arrangement enjoyable for both of us.

In return, I don’t ask for much. I’m not controlling. I just want basic respect, effort, attention, and some genuine affection. It shouldn’t feel like a cold, one-sided transaction.

After taking a three-year break, I recently came back to the sugar bowl and I was shocked at how much things have changed.

Three years ago, there were still many genuine sugar babies who understood what a real arrangement meant - but now it feels completely different:

• Lots of low-effort messages (one-word replies, zero interest in conversation)
• Immediate demands for high allowances with nothing offered in return
• Scammers and girls who just want to promote OnlyFans
• Escorts pretending to be Sugar Babies, pushing for hourly rates
• Girls who act extremely entitled and expect everything without giving anything back

It’s frustrating because many Sugar Babies complain that there are “no good Sugar Daddies left,” but they’re not willing to put in any effort themselves. When a generous SD shows up and offers a great arrangement, they either put in minimal effort or try to squeeze out as much money as possible as quickly as possible.

I’ve always believed sugar dating should be a two-way street - mutual benefit, not just taking.

Because of this, I’m starting to think freestyling (meeting girls in real life at upscale bars, events, etc.) is becoming a much better option than sugar dating sites. Online, the quality has dropped significantly, and filtering through all the scammers and low-effort profiles is exhausting.

To the girls reading this: if you want to message me, please be genuine. Ask yourself - are you actually looking for a real arrangement, or just quick money? If you’re serious and willing to put in the effort, I’m happy to talk. Vague messages or instant money demands won’t get a reply.

I haven’t given up on sugar dating yet, but I’ve definitely changed my approach.

What do you guys think?

• Have you noticed the same changes?
• Is sugar dating getting harder?
• SDs and SBs - what’s your experience lately?

I’d love to hear your honest thoughts below.

 

[gingerbaby]

We’re still here, just harder to find among all the content creators and fake accounts.

The toughest part is that so many guys pretending to be sugar daddies aren’t looking for a real arrangement at all - they just want something quick and casual.

It feels like we’ve all accepted this as the new normal, and that makes me a little sad.

 

[Angela]

I completely agree with a lot of what you said.

I recently ended my long-term SD relationship and jumped back into the bowl. I see changes too. Many SDs have become really jaded and overly cautious. They’re so afraid of getting scammed or used that they approach everything with a filter - even when you can tell there’s a real person behind it. It makes connecting much harder.

Because of that, I’ve started filtering more as well. I don’t waste my time or energy on situations that don’t feel right or align with what I’m looking for.

I’ve only ever had long-term arrangements with my SDs, and I still prefer offering the full girlfriend experience.