From my experience, you usually don’t know if something will turn into a "friends with benefits" situation until after you’ve had sex. But on real hookup apps, I generally know what to expect before meeting because people are more open about discussing sex.
What I mean is, I can usually tell if a woman might be open to a FWB arrangement.
Like most people, I’ve used Tinder to find hookups. But since it’s not really a hookup-focused app, I often don’t know what I’m walking into. In my experience, women there are less likely to talk about sex upfront.
Most women on regular dating apps seem more interested in short-term flings than in casual sex with ongoing connection.
For FWB, my go-to app is
3FUN. It’s known for threesomes, but I’ve met all kinds of open-minded people there - some into polyamory, others just looking for something casual but consistent.
On my profile, I make it clear that I’m mainly looking for FWB, but I’m also open to seeing how things go after the first night, without putting too much pressure on it.
When chatting with someone, here’s what I usually bring up:
- Where we are in life, and whether we can realistically meet up regularly and with mutual consent
- Our fantasies - what we haven’t tried yet, and what we usually enjoy in bed
- Physical attraction - do we find each other attractive enough to enjoy long foreplay and extended intimacy
Of course, like on any dating app, there are fake profiles. But they’re usually easy to spot and block.
