Being trans can mean different things, and you don’t have to fit every stereotype or “check every box” to be valid. Many trans people don’t take hormones, have surgery, or focus on passing. If someone says you’re not trans because you don’t match their idea of what a trans person should be, they’re being transphobic.
Cis people often focus too much on genitals, seeing them as the main thing that defines gender - men have penises, women have vaginas, and that’s it for them. This view is harmful and untrue. While gender and genitals can be connected, they are not the same. People can have any genitals and still be their true gender.
I’m a woman with a penis, and I’m fine with it. I don’t want a vagina. That doesn’t make me any less of a woman. I do plan to have an orchiectomy, but only to stop testosterone production - not because I dislike my penis.
Some trans people experience bottom dysphoria and want surgery, and that’s equally valid.
At the end of the day, people are just people.
